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Taking the Loss

 2 Corinthians 6:10 -- ...as having nothing yet possessing everything... I've been suffering silently for the past few years.  I don't discuss it because I can't. I also don't discuss it because I don't know what good it would do.  And I don't discuss it because I don't want anyone's pity. Some days are great; some days not so great.  But honestly, I feel like I've pressed along quit commendably. For the most part, I've remained positive and not let myself fall into bitterness.  But there are times where the frustration gets me.  There have been times when I wallowed in my self-pity. A few years ago, I ran across a Facebook post -- Don't ask why is this happening to me, but what is this teaching me?  And after seeing last week it pop up in my memories, I simply asked God again, "what are you trying to teach me?" Today, as I sat in church, my pastor spoke God's answer.  Although it was my Pastor's voice I audibly heard, I kne

Post Election Sadness

This is why I’m upset – Not because Trump won.  He had a 50/50 chance.  I would have been disappointed with Hilary Clinton too.  Why I’m mad is because people who claim to be Christ followers, Christians, honestly believe that the President-elect is a fellow believer. I’m shocked.  I’m stunned.  Most importantly, I’m saddened. If you think that he was the “lesser of two evils”, I can understand.  If you thought that maybe his erratic policy would shake things up, I can understand that too.  But if you honestly think that this man is a Christian, well, that I can’t understand. This man joined the Republican Party which stands for “pro-life” and “anti-gay” policies, and perhaps, you consider those Christian qualities.  But that does not make a Christian.  This man, our President-elect, has multiple marriages, has on numerous occasions spoke derogatorily against other races and gender, and has performed numerous shady, corrupt business transactions, just to name a few. Yet, a

No Greater Love

There is a biological clock that ticks.  Sometimes it's so faint, I don't even hear it.  Other times, its tick-tock is more like a sonic boom in my ears, reminding me that my "best years" are quickly slipping by. There have been times where I thought the clock's ticking was meaningless because my life was headed in the right direction.  The good guy in my life would lead to a proposal, house, family...to taking my rightful place in society.  Or, I was applying for jobs in big cities where I could live the single life seen in the movies...just fun and friends! With the guys never seeming to pan out, I figured it was time to spread my wings and fly.  To become Miss Independent, far away from the small country life I have lived for so long.  And many, many people encouraged it.  There is no future here in Greenville, no real single friends my age, no possibilities for someone like me.  Then there were those that questioned, what are you going to do about "so

The Hurt and The Healer...Collide!

So the other day I simply prayed "God, if you aren't going to restore this relationship, help me move on.  I'm ready to be through with this."  A few hours later I had an email from him saying "I'm moving on.  If you want to discuss this, we can, but after that I can't speak to you anymore.  I need to make some decisions with a clear conscious."  And that was it.  Couldn't get more final than that!  Maybe if the email had come a few days or a week later.  But no, there was no mistaking this answer from God.  "You asked for it...poof!"  And there it was...the answer to what I had been praying for since September.  I'm not sure what made me pray that prayer that way on that day.  I'm not sure what made God answer the prayer with an email that quickly.  But whatever the reason, there was no denying that it was God. And of course, it wasn't the answer I wanted.  It was infuriating.  Why now God?  Why answer this prayer now? 

Viewing God

I think I have a twisted view of God.  But I'm not sure I can help it because it's the view I have of Him.  And our view of others is due to experiences and perspectives, and how can you change those? So the backstory....I've always been ok with Greenville.  I mean, I love to travel, and I know this town is kind of a dump, but I've always been satisfied here.  I've been content with being near my family, being involved in church, and having a good job.  But over the past few years, especially this year, I have become distant from the town and the things that use to make me feel content.  Now the thought of being here another year makes me want to curl up and cry. My job is frustrating, and the fulfillment I once had is quickly dying out. I won't lie, a big part of all this frustration is my dating life.  I've never had a lot of boyfriends, but I've always been so busy and had so many guy friends, that I was ok.  But then the past 2 years I've dat

Can't Burn the Memories

I was afraid to give you my heart, Afraid you would break it in two. But I just couldn't help myself; I fell in love with you. And now you say it's over, That it's just not where you should be. But sitting on the ground Nothing but tears and ashes all around That's where you left me... I watched your things burn. Breathed in the smoke of the remains. The shirt from the trip to the beach, The letter you sent that one week, I watched it all just slip away. Now there's nothing left but a charred mess, Nothing in which to cling. I may have burned these things -- But I can't burn away the memories.

The things I currently hate...

I hate that I love you. I hate that talking to you makes me feel better. I hate that the fire of hope won't die. I hate that I can't stop wishing. I hate that the idea of talking to you makes me feel better but thinking it may be the last time makes me sick to my stomach. I hate that I don't want to be your friend because I can't be more.  But I can't imagine not being your friend even if I can't be more. I hate that I can't move on and terrified you will. I hate that I want to move, but I don't want to move for you because I'm scared it won't be enough for you. I hate that you can't see what I see.  I hate that you can't be certain. I hate having faith in you and not in "us." I hate crying and being confused, especially when I think one day it may not even matter. I hate caring.  I hate feeling.  I hate remembering. Most of all, I hate being me without you.