I need to rant!

I absolutely cannot stand double standards. Nothing can get me fired up more than people seeing guys and girls differently when it comes to sex. I realize that the world sees the girl as the whore and the guy as the hero, but as a Christian, it shouldn't be that way. If one is wrong, the other is wrong.

I had this conversation tonight with a friend, and it made me so angry. He sat at the table and said that he wanted to marry a virgin; however, he openly admits that he's been with plenty of women. Now, I on the other hand, do not condone adultery, however previous sexual history does not weigh heavy on my list of criteria for a guy.

Don't get me wrong. I would much rather marry a virgin for the fact that I wouldn't be compared to anyone else and that is the type of lifestyle that I agree with spiritually. However, I realize that we all make mistakes, and the fact that some people don't come to have a relationship with Jesus until much later in life. Also, I realize that guys are guys, and inside each one of them lives a dog that is very hard to tame. So the likelihood of me being 23, finding a virgin man is extremely low. Am I going to hold on out on love as a result? No!

Here's the thing though. If a guy can change from being a male whore, then a girl can change too. God told the adulterous women to "go and sin no more." Who am I to say that someone's sins aren't washed away. It just bothers me that guys, even Christian ones, can be so hypocritical to live a loose lifestyle, but still expect to get the good girl. They don't want to be with a "tainted" woman, but they sure don't mind doing the tainting!

The thing is, I know that this guy has slept with other girls, even after he's started to be a Christian. That doesn't change the fact that I think he's an overall good person. I think he's a more sincere person when it comes to God and living right than a lot of people I know. But I know that if I made one mistake and slept with someone, that he would see me completely differently. And that's just not fair!!!!

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chantell said…
Not only isn't it fair, it's sick and arrogant. I don't know if I could have continued the conversation. The double standard (especially in the "church") reeks.
8:12 AM
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